Well now you’re here. You’ve got the matches and now you want to take the next step involved with getting these girls in bed with you. Now when it comes to meeting women in person, what you say does not matter in the slightest, there is no best opener in person. Since the only taste she has of you on Tinder at this moment is a few photos, it’s time to peak her interest enough for her to respond, remember just because she matched with you doesn’t mean she wants to sleep with you just yet. So what do you say in order for her to respond, well there’s plenty of examples of what NOT to use as an opener and I’ll even organize them for your benefit.

Examples of What NOT to Say.

  • The Idiot

Basically this type of guy will just send the typical value-seeking “Hey” or “Hi there” expecting a response from a girl, which spoiler-alert, never comes and he just keeps messaging her until he finally says the most infamous, desperate string of characters ever typed “Please respond.”

  • The Frat Bro

Combine the literary prowess of William Shakespeare and the charm of Casa Nova and you’ll have the exact polar opposite of this type of guy. With great lines such as “Wanna fuck?” and “I want you to sit on my face” or even “I’ll give you $2000 to fuck me” it’s hard to wonder how this guy isn’t getting laid, especially with photos of his dick on his Tinder moments.

  • The Sex Creep

Much like the Frat Bro the Sex Creep is a guy who has no clue in the slightest how to attract a woman, it’s really poetically ironic. This is the kind of guy who’s opener arsenal is filled with gems ranging from “How do you feel about submissive men” to “I want you to wear a strap on and fuck my ass.” Basically think Frat Bro, but instead of a sideways ball cap he’s wearing a ball gag and a leather hood.


  • The Psycho

Well this one really speaks for itself. Probably the biggest fear for a girl on Tinder is meeting up with a serial killer. Saying shit like “I want to wear your skin as a onesie” isn’t going to persuade her to banging you anytime soon.

Now that you have an idea of what not to be saying as an opener, and if you fall into any of these 4 categories, please for your own benefit, keep reading because we’re going to cover all the things you need to be doing in order to build attraction over messages and you can see a list of the best tinder openers available.


The purpose of the first message is to send out a probe in order to gauge her mood, sending something playful like “I’m planning a bank heist, you in?” is by far the best Tinder opener I employ frequently because it allows me to set a fun vibe as well as providing value rather than trying to leech it off of her. It communicates to the girl that you’re a fun guy who has his own thing going on and that you are inviting her to join the fun while keeping yourself independent of the outcome.

The Best Tinder Openers

  • “I’m planning a bank heist, you in?”
  • “I haven’t figured out if you’re going to be the nicest girl on my naughty list, or the naughtiest girl on my nice list”
  • “Just got a haircut without running it by my mom first, no big deal.”
  • “We matched because we’re both naturally awesome.

Now these are just a few of my favorite openers, go ahead and use them to your heart’s content. However don’t be surprised if these stop working after a while due to girls seeing the same opener hundreds of times a day. The best way to prevent that from happening is by coming up with your opener, and believe me its much easier than you think, especially since I’m gonna show you exactly how to do it.

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